Using Questions As Tools In Christian Dating

I agree with this article on using questions to land dates.

But questions can also be used to avoid heartache, scams, and deception in dating. Don’t be afraid to ask upfront for:

• Their full name (including their middle name). Many times we think to get their first and last name. But when googling their name or even searching county databases we may end up with too much information and information that has nothing to do with the person in question. So the more you can filter your search results, the more time you have to get to know this new person.
  
  
  If they ask why you want to know, you can let them know you were just curious. Or you can tell them you wanted to know if the name they gave you was their true first name or do people refer to them by their middle name. After all, it’s not uncommon for people to go by their middle name instead of their first. It also helps when you do the smart thing and at least google them.
• Don’t be afraid to ask for their email address either. Many times when you date online, people are quick to ask you to email them. This is a tactic many scammers use. But if they don’t offer their email, you can tell them you want to send them a funny video, an inspirational message, or an article you think they’d find interesting.

  Then once you have their email, be sure to plug it into all of the major search engines to see if anything negative turns up. You can also use it to search many social media sites.

• Also don’t be afraid to ask them if their pictures are recent. If they say “Yes”, then follow up by asking “How recent are they?”. If they say “No”, then ask them to post more recent pictures.
  Once they have shared pictures on their profile, you can then do a google image search using their pictures. You’d be surprised by the results. This is also a technique to use to catch scammers.

The point is, by asking the right questions, you can better determine if you are truly interested in getting to know this person, and it can help you detect scammers earlier in the process.

Your time is short and so is life. Don’t waste it on losers.

Walking in love,

Tayarisha Joyce